The Marriage Monologue

I was not checking you but was admiring how the good lord has blessed you. I was bit upfront and admitted to him that I visually enjoyed him. This was thirty years ago when me and now my now sixty-year-old husband dated for three months and hurriedly tied the knot like a lovelorn couple who could not stay apart!

After having traded the adoration of many for the sarcasm of one, I have often felt that I have been taking a walk in the park—the Jurassic park! Ever since!

Frequently I ponder why if 'opposites attract' do most couples not get along?

Marriage it seems is a civil ceremony where two persons of the opposite sex solemnly agree to harass and spy on each other for the rest of their lives or until death do them join.

Since both of us said “I do” we have not agreed on a single thing since.

All I can say is that marriage is a difficult project, with the years that have passed my body cells have also been replaced and it has left me feeling that the happiness in marriage which was meant to be a long-term romantic relationship has declined.

A great marriage I thought was not when a “Perfect Couple” comes together but when an 'imperfect couple' comes together and learns to enjoy their differences. However, I ended up living a double life of being wicked mostly and at the same time being good always! That is hypocrisy and sadly I know that indeed it is and what an irony.

Frequently I ponder why if 'opposites attract' do most couples not get along?

Introspection reveals that our personality traits differ, there is no such thing as a good or bad personality trait. All of us have both good and bad traits in us but the problem arises when any such trait is carried to the extreme which spells trouble in a relationship.

Whenever a fight breaks out between us, which is quite frequently over the flimsiest of reasons, I feel hassled and exhausted being on the defensive.

Why don’t we ever meet halfway? Don’t I deserve some respect? Why do we revert to our respective comfort zones and refuse to budge? Why are we getting polarized?

Marriage has therefore become a backache which does not show up in an X-ray but you know it is there.

I am so frustrooted !!!

Are You too?

Well don’t be and here is why:

We have become self-taught Psychologists for we not only know when our husband is being a jerk but also what type of a jerk he is!

Cheer Up!

Will be back soon ….